Believing is Seeing

I was 12 – well past the age of believing in Santa – and yet here I was, standing in line to go sit on the big man’s knee with my younger sisters, and to plead my case of being a good girl and deserving that for which I was asking.  It was because of those...

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Changing Perspectives

I’m a green sort of gal. Well, let me be more specific: I am a “green-leaves-on-trees” sort. Perhaps it’s because that is what I grew up with, or maybe it’s a past life thing. Who knows. In any case, when flying cross country, I am in awe of the mountains and deserts...

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My Best Boss Was The One Who Fired Me

I’m an interesting combination of respect for authority and “don’t tell me what to do”. And the older I get, the more I lean towards the defiant side. This is probably, in large part, why I am now an entrepreneur. Growing up in conservative middle-America in the 60s...

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I Didn’t Believe I Had A Choice

I’m a smart woman with a good head on her shoulders, as my mother would say. I pride myself on being observant and objective. I am committed to leading a spiritual life and teach motivational courses to assist others in doing the same. I stress the concept of choice,...

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Lessons From Lily

This is an excerpt from my book, Soul in Control: Reflections of a Reformed Superwoman, available on Amazon and other online book retailers. LESSONS FROM LILY Yesterday I was in a silly mood and was doing a very goofy dance in the kitchen, à la Elaine from Seinfeld. ...

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Life is Not Fair…and That’s Why You’re Here

My son and daughter-in-law live in Houston. I can’t even watch the news or I’ll send myself down a rabbit’s hole of worry. They are safe and relatively dry as I write this, so they are among the lucky ones. I can’t even imagine the terror of those living closer to the...

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My Summer of Allowing

It started with Paris. I woke up one day with the thought “I need to go to Paris”. It seemed like a lovely idea, and also a slightly audacious one. I shared it with my daughter, who said “Well then…why not?” I laughed at the idea that I could just pick up and go – and...

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Falling Without Fear

I used to like high places. I loved to climb trees as a child and look down between the branches to the world below. I loved roller coasters – the higher the better – and talked my nervous children into riding them with me. I’d hike up a mountain and stand on the top...

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Biased Against Myself

Last week our local newspaper ran the following headline: Montclair Mom To Challenge Frelinghuysen For Congress. Here is my reaction/internal conversation: “Oh, good for her! She must have really said ‘enough is enough’.” Then I read the article. It began…. U.S. Rep....

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Finding Your Way

I’ll admit that I am a bit “unconventional” when it comes to the typical stereotype of a woman driver. I do NOT stop and ask for directions. I remember actually stopping once, when my college roommate and I were doing a summer road trip around the state and had NO...

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